Save your relationship from havoc called social media

By on June 20, 2017

In this wide world, we are all connected through social media. We use social media for chatting, tweeting, sharing our personal stuff .Moreover, our personal life has no longer remained our personal life. However, on a deeper level, the way you use social media can affect your relationship. I do not mean that you should not use it, but you should give it a check if you don’t want your relationship to suffer in the hands of social media.

It is in your hands to control of your relationship but, sometimes you become so engaged and things get difficult between you and your partner. The signs are not visible, but we are not able to spot them. Moreover, the problem arises when you start doing these things:

1. Being secretive:

In a serious relationship, we often get insecure, and we try to breach into each other’s personal space. It is not necessary that you need to know each other passwords to social media accounts, but if trust is not an issue, then it should not be a problem in your case. However, if you act secretive in front of your partner like being uncomfortable while checking your Instagram or Facebook, then this gives your partner a major reason to get suspicious. You might be hiding your account unknowingly, or you like to have your privacy. So, try to communicate this to your partner in a right way so that misunderstandings do not occur between two of you.

2). Stalking:

It is tempting to stalk other’s accounts on social media, but this can get you in trouble sometimes. If you try to stalk, your partner online and then you might be crossing the line of privacy. Your partner might think you are suspicious and want to confirm his/her betrayal. If you continuously stalk your partner, then your insecurities and jealousy will soon strain your relationship.

3). Over sharing:

Your relationship should be private so don’t make it public. It is not a good idea turning towards Facebook or Twitter to express your relationship issues or anger. The people will get to know what’s happening in your relationship and is it more likely that your relationship won’t last. If you post photos of your special moments, then you have to consider your partner feelings. Special moments remains no longer special as others can see it . Moreover, public display of affection shows a sign of insecurity.

4) “Liking”:

Liking someone’s post or picture can get you in trouble. It is a photo, and without thinking, you liked it, but your partner starts asking various questions like do you know the person and how close are you. With these endless questions, you get frustrated and often end up fighting. You start thinking there is no trust in your relationship. But, social media is not the problem in this case, but a problem is a trust. You should both have a conversation regarding these issues and set some boundaries when it comes to social media.

5) Being “single” online:

If you are in a committed relationship and you do not share any details of your relationship on social media, then this can make your partner doubt you. Moreover, if you are private messaging someone and hiding it from your partner, then this can worsen your relationship.

6) Social media limitations:

There are no limitations when it comes to social media. If you tend to reach out to your phone early in the morning to check what’s happening in the world then social media has taken a toll on you.

Sometimes, you both get so fascinated that you often start ignoring each other and this creates a wall between you and your partner. To avoid this situation, you both should try to restrict yourselves from the phone for few hours or even days and set time for the social media. The small initiative of yours will reap great results, and you will have ample of time to spend with each other.

She is an author at askebuddy. She holds a master degree in journalism. Creativity is her forte, she is always in search of new things, and she is a free spirit.

Kanchan Wadhawan

She is an author at askebuddy. She holds a master degree in journalism. Creativity is her forte, she is always in search of new things, and she is a free spirit.